You must develop self-confidence before you enter a relationship. Self-confidence will help you make successful decisions when relationship issues arise. For example, you will encounter disagreements and sometimes they will not go as smoothly; your partner might say or do things to make you feel bad about yourself to win or try to control you. When you have low self-confidence, it will be difficult for you to stand up for yourself when your partner treats you negatively. When your partner has the opportunity to treat you negatively, he or she will likely do the same thing in the future, and then it will soon become a habit. You should never allow anyone to treat you poorly, no matter what the situation might be.
Being confident also gives you the ability to believe in yourself that if the current relationship is not working, you can find another person who can better support you. However, with low self-confidence, the other person will make you feel bad and influence you to believe that no one else will want to be in your life. They will make you feel that you are lucky to have them in your life. But the reality is, there are many people out there who will treat you better and will want to be in your life. It just depends on how high your self-confidence level is to believe that better people are out there waiting for you.
2. Be strong alone
Being strong alone helps you to believe that no one will bring you happiness except for you. However, this does not mean it is not important to have someone in your life to support you. We all need someone in our lives to support us when we need that extra push. However, it has to be the right person, and not just anyone.
Sometimes you have to be patient with yourself for the right person to enter your life. While you are waiting for the right person, you must be strong alone to believe that you can still make your life possible without that person. You might have to go from one person to another to find the right person, but do not settle for the wrong person because you believe there is no one else.
Also, when you are not strong alone, you might think that having someone in your life is better than being alone, even though that person might not be a good fit for you. However, you would rather go through life on your own than with an unsupportive person. You will get through life farther on your own than with an unsupportive individual. Always remember that you deserve the best and that person is out there also looking for you.
3. Be self-reliant
Being self-reliant means having the ability to take care of your basic survival needs on your own. Even though the other person might support you to a certain amount when you are together, you should be able to support yourself if the relationship does not work out. When you rely on the other person to support your survival needs, and when they are not there, then it can be difficult for you to support yourself. As a result, it will be very difficult for you to let them go when you discovered that they are not a good fit for you anymore. You might only stay with that person for the survival needs but not because you love them. Also, the other person might take you for granted when they are the sole provider for your survival needs because they feel that you need them more than they need you.
You must have the ability to believe in yourself that no matter what happens in a relationship, you can support yourself if the relationship does not turn out positively. You want to be free to make great decisions when it comes to relationships.
4. Lifestyle support
Make sure the person will support your life areas such as your career and health. Those 2 areas are part of your life and you want to become successful in them. For example, if you want to improve your health and want to develop and live a healthy lifestyle, then you want to make sure that the other person is also on the same path to living a healthy lifestyle to support you. If not, if the other person has an unhealthy lifestyle, they can influence you to engage in unhealthy behaviors that you might not want to develop. It is the same with your career. Make sure the other person understands and supports you in your career development. A successful career is not only about earning a living but also gives you meaning and purpose when you have the right support.
Make sure to learn communication skills to develop a successful relationship. It can be difficult to support each other when you and your partner do not know how to communicate well with one another. For example, for the other person to understand you, you must know how to communicate your needs and desires to them successfully, and not assume that the other will know what you want. There is a right and wrong way to communicate. No matter how much you try to communicate, in the wrong way, the other person will not understand you successfully. A successful relationship is a two-way street. Both of you must be willing to communicate at the same level.
6. Growing together
A successful relationship is a growing relationship. As a human being, you are a living thing, which means you either grow or die, you do not stay the same. A relationship must grow as well. For example, you and your partner should understand that both of you will be different people as you both learn and develop through the relationship. Your partner should not expect you to stay the same as when you first met each other. You will learn, change, and develop, and your partner should see and understand that. You should also have someone who learns, develops, and grows as well, and you should support the other person in their development as well. Understanding and building a long-lasting relationship is a lifelong process because your learning and development is a lifelong process.